Optimistic ways of a nihilistic mind

Did you know that with each moment that passes, the way you perceive the environment and your self in it changes? In small, unnoticeable incremental bits, the most distinct characteristic of the human being,  the ego, becomes distorted by the noise of our background. People change; you are not the same as you were a year ago, and you are very different than who you were 10 or 20 years ago. Religion teaches us to believe in eternal life; yet theoretically given enough time, the person at point A, would be a completely different person than the exact same person at point B. Even immortality isn’t forever.

Eternal life is not of interest to me however. As far as I’m concerned I can only exist as this person – body and mind – I am only once. I recognize that for a species gifted with consciousness – awareness of their existence – the idea of not existing at some point in the future attacks core – survival – instincts which then try to push it away. What do you think it means to carve ones name on a tree, or as a more extreme example, to invent a religion? We want to last forever. As soon as you wrap your brain around the inherent meaninglessness of existence however, it’s hard to turn your back to it.

When I think of my life, I get this weird exciting sensation down my stomach that never fails to make me smile. It is incomprehensible how much randomness was accumulated to produce the chance event my parents called “me”. This life I was granted out of nowhere defied all odds, and I get to squeeze out all the experiences I can/want from it for about a whole century. I get to be happy, sad, embarrassed, angry, ecstatic, nostalgic, humiliated, amazed, amused and entertained by it. Will it ever matter? No, it won’t, because those 100 years are just a drop of water in an endless sea of time. But how liberating that is! It means that, I get to cherish as much good as I can while at the same time all disappointments, humiliations, embarrassments, failures, losses, defeats, shames and confusions will be eventually forgotten.

After all: “It is not the destination that makes a ride fascinating, but the actual experience of it while it lasts.”



Stop complaining

Seriously stop! Its unattractive, unbecoming, and tiring for everyone; and frankly, its not what people want to hear no matter how much they may empathize with you. Also, there is no right time to complain, there is only a “less wrong” time to complain but even then you are still a killjoy.

Why do you complain???
-Do you honestly enjoy embracing negativity?
-Do you like spreading negativity around you?
-Is your aim to look weak and pessimistic?
-Do you expect your problems to magically disappear as soon as you spell them?
-Are they really that troubling?
-Do you just want someone to tell you everything will be okay? Will you be needing someone to tell you everything will be okay every-time something troubles you for the rest of your life?
-Do you not have ambitions to improve on the social sector of your life?
-Can you not bond with someone over something not negative?
-Do you not see how it brings you down when someone close to you is in a bad mood?
-Do you remember complaining on the best days of your life?

The funny thing is, you probably dislike it when people complain too. Most of the times we don’t even realize we are complaining, it’s just a bad habit we’ve picked up and it comes out naturally without us consciously thinking about it.

How to stop:
To complain is to express some form of dissatisfaction. Whereas oftentimes that dissatisfaction is only superficial, when complaining occurs constantly it is a sign of a more deeply rooted problem. The latter usually means you’ve been suppressing yourself for too long, and to the idle person, expressing negative thoughts is next “closest” thing to taking action. You need to start taking action. Any type of action will do, anything that will get you out of that bubble/comfort-zone you’ve been living in, because life is moving and its changing, and so should you. You may need small changes or you may need big changes in your life, that’s up to you to figure out, just stop complaining and do something about it.

Lateral thinking – Pt 1

“The chief enemy of creativity is good sense”
Pablo Picasso

If an idea in your mind is made up of small blocks of information, expanding in an additive fashion each time you receive one from your environment, then all your “new” beliefs are, by application of rationalism, biased.

What if I told you that the method of thinking we call logic operates in exactly the way described above. We routinely take up multiple blocks of information, pass them on into our hard-drives and based on previous information we have already stored there, we find a way to add the new information on top of that. This is the reason why it is so ridiculously hard to alter someone’s way of thinking, or to pass an idea which is incompatible to someone else’s already stored information. Logic is the most common method used for thinking, primarily because that is the main – if not the only – method for thinking we have been taught at school, college, university et cetera, sometimes, indirectly even by our families. 

There is a second, less pronounced school of though which most of us would agree it is more of a character trait, rather than something that can be taught, however, remember that we are biased to think by what we already know. Humor and creativity, are what is scientifically labeled “Lateral Thinking”. What both humor and creativity do, more notably, is that they make us smile when we acknowledge them. Less notably, they uptake information in a similar manner logic does, and instead of adding that information on top of previously stored data, they take the whole data (old and new information) and re-arrange their order in a new way. Think for example of a house made of bricks converted into something else made of bricks, such as a wall , or the words in a sentence rearranged to form a sentence with a different meaning, or the logical expectation or how a situation unravels to be challenged. Say you are in a coffee shop and you need a chair to sit, you walk up to a group of strangers who have a vacant seat next to them and you ask them “Is this chair available?” and if they say yes, instead of grabbing the chair, moving it to your table and then sit on it, which is what the strangers would expect you to do, you sit on it right away. The strangers will probably smile because for some reason its fun to redefine what’s supposed to be ordinary in our minds.

I believe for this same reason lateral thinking should be more commonly used in our daily lives. We should try to think of ways in which the blocks of information we possess about something can be rearranged, even if it seems absurd at the beginning. After all, it is change that makes the world go round. Time is not fixed, so why live as if it is?

(To be continued)



A simple algorithm to become a dominant man

Being dominant is a distinctive characteristic of alpha males in the animal kingdom. In men, it is a trait that emits confidence, satisfaction and fulfillment. So here is how you become dominant:

a) Create in your mind a model (i.e. A set of traits, followed by a mental movie etc…) of what you think a dominant male would be like.

b) Use that model to alter the way you perceive yourself. I.e. Become an actor, step into it, act as if that is you.

c) Expect everything to unravel according to the model as if that is the natural order of things. That is, don’t care who knows it or who sees it and don’t make excuses for it.

The same concept can also be applied to different contexts. e.g. How to become happy.
Eventually it grows on you and you become it. The process takes much less time than you’d think.